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Mothers of the bride have it easy; they were told fairy tales as little girls and retold them to their daughters.  However, mothers of the groom were told the same fairy tales which have given them no help for their future planning.  Because the cautionary tale is your are only the Mother of the Groom.

 

In this age of feminism all equality is thrown out the window because it is “the bride’s day”.  She has been dreaming of being the princess for a very long time.  Everyone knows how important this day is to her except perhaps the Mother of the Groom. 

 

Somehow when the family says you will be included and they welcome your ideas, that is code for “make sure our daughter’s dreams are fulfilled.”

 

Even having a great relationship with your future daughter-in-law can backfire according to Dr. Orbuch author of the book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.”  The wife who feels close to her husband’s parents may find it difficult to set boundaries over time and may see that close relationship as meddling.

 

So my advice

Sit down you’re rocking the boat; so just sit down and enjoy the ride; your son will appreciate it and so will everyone else.

I think one thing Boca Raton has been lacking is an expensive place to watch movies and sit in the dark and eat and drink while the movie is playing. Well rest assured that gap has been filled by Ipic at Mizner Park. So now you can spend $14 or $24 to do just that. 

We wanted to see a movie and not wait in line and have a reserved seat so we decided to indulge in the current decadence. We had a hard enough time justifying the lower price so the higher price was not for discussion. No one was going to bring food to the few rows who paid less; we would have to forage for ourselves. So we settled into our seats and much to our dismay realized that we had to crane our necks in order to see and the price of the ticket didn’t compare to a chiropractic adjustment. However it was hard to park and we didn’t want to start again so we grumbled to ourselves that this would be the first and last and little did we know how true those words would be.

The movie started and started and started and started. Yes, after the fourth time of the movie starting and stopping we took our bodies and craned necks to the ticket booth, got a refund and left. The answer is no. No one made an announcement, no one explained, no one apologized and no one could get the movie started. Not sure the people in the expensive seats cared because they reclined and could eat and drink in the dark. Not sure what the appeal is of a meal in the dark when you need to look at the food and the screen at the same time and I probably will not find out.

Be responsible: don’t text while driving was the large sign on Highway I-95 positioned above our head as we drove. The only people who didn’t see it were texting. Why does it seem to be so addictive that people need to be warned not to look away from the road and type something to someone at the very second they are driving? And what are they saying that can’t wait?

There exists a texting culture and it can be broken down as such: 1) Some people have chosen it as their main form of communication and regularly use it to communicate with certain people; it allows them to share any information without actually interrupting someone else. 2) Some people rely on it as an information only service to convey such things as: running late, meet you after dinner or call your mother. 3) Some people unilaterally use it to convey feelings or emotions or greetings to someone with whom they have no texting relationship: miss you, happy birthday, hope you feel better. I have had many phone calls (really), emails, and no texts on the subject of conveying feelings through texts which we will continue to explore. Have you established texting relationships? Did you know they even existed?

Be responsible don’t text while driving

I received a text message wishing me and five others whom I don’t know a Happy New Year. So now what? Am I supposed to text back even though we haven’t spoken in months and live in the same town? Am I supposed to feel flattered or good because she took five seconds out of her day to send a message? Or am I supposed to be happy that she remembered and embrace this new technology?

Many of us who are 50 or older long for those days when someone called from a phone in their home because they wanted to take the time to engage in a conversation. They wanted to hear our voice and found the time in their busy schedules to make the time. They couldn’t do it while driving or shopping or having their hair done. There were no cell phones. We were not an afterthought; we were the thought.

Why is it that with all the inventions to make life easier that people have so little time? Do people really have less time or is the need to stay busy an antidote to thinking? Has thinking become a dangerous sport? Is connecting with others on a constant basis even when you are with others a new sport? Are these all simple diversions from the examined life? Or is it as simple as a generational chasm and the seeming lack of intimacy is not real?

Nostalgia is like a grammar lesson: you find the present tense, but the past perfect… Owens Lee Pomeroy

We all have been somewhere/everywhere when an individual has a private cell phone conversation in your face and is dumfounded that you were not interested in hearing the details of her mother’s surgery when getting a pedicure. And I cannot count the times especially at a sushi bar that the person next to me indulges in one of those conversations while adroitly jamming his face with food while trying to use chopsticks. If you don’t like eating alone phone a friend.

This irritating practice reached new heights when the person next to me took out his phone, and I saw it coming – another dismal mundane conversation. But no, instead he decided to watch a tv show with the sound on. I on the other hand was not planning to watch tv and hence went to the sushi bar. Oblivious, he orders more food and proceeds to watch more tv. Luckily there was room at the inn so I moved myself to another seat and continued my meal in silence.

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What are the two most looked up words in the dictionary in the year 2012? Socialism and Capitalism are the answer followed by malarkey, schadenfreude, meme, democracy, marriage, globalization, bigot, and professionalism. Think this was an election year? These are not words of joy, enthusiasm, hope, or love. 

The only saving grace is that last years most looked up word was austerity

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